Hello! I am just working on figuring this “blog” bit out … so please bear with me!
Today I am reflecting on the split there is between those for whom the term “middle-aged” applies and the greater number of people for whom the term has become obsolete. I like to think, at any rate, there are a greater number of people for whom the term “middle-aged” has become obsolete and antiquated! If we consider the average lifespan of humans (we’ll say around 70, for simplicity’s sake!), 35 would definitionally be “middle-aged.” This means the traditional characteristics associated with middle age – being married, having kids, owning a house, having worked a steady job for many years, &c., &c., – must necessarily have been met by the time one enters the mid-30’s. This is a terribly depressing prospect!!! How limiting are these definitions not only for those of us affected by chronic illness who must necessarily operate on a different timeline, but for the “average” “healthy” person who is pressured into “achieving” these things simply to be “average” and not lose the potential to get married or have children or whatever “average” entails.
I will come back to this at a later date – too much noise and stress at the moment!
Published by Beth Poste
I have been living with chronic illness since I was 2 months old. My first "formal" chronic illness diagnosis was Behçet's Disease - I was 17 at the time. I was later diagnosed with Common Variable Immune Deficiency (I more or less led the doctors to that diagnosis - that story is for another time!) and those have been my "primary" two illnesses. I have many other "secondary" diagnoses such as seronegative Rheumatoid Arthritis, Chiari 1 Malformation (a result, I believe, of the Behçet's causing aseptic meningitis time and again since it had never appeared in brain scans before I was about 24-25), osteoporosis, compression fractures of the thoracic spine, and many others. I know what it is like to feel as if you have lost years of your life that you can never recover from illness and the many restrictions it places upon you in your everyday life. I just want you to know that I know what it is like and I have been there through every period of my life - you are NOT ALONE! Please do not hesitate to contact me if you ever need someone to talk with or someone just to listen to you - I am always here! Thank you for taking the time to read this and my other posts and I hope you are having a happy and healthy day no matter where you are in the world! Take care.
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